In our country, we assume marriage is an institution where
you are not supposed to drop it in the middle. It is the bond for your
lifetime. You relate this relationship with the new relationship between two
families and three generations. But, there are things, which can make this
beautiful relationship complicated and even worse. One should avoid such things
and issues in life to make this relationship work throughout your life. Here are
a few mistakes you should never make in your first year of marriage:
Having unrealistic
expectations: Having expectations in any relationship is good sign that you
want to grow in it and live it. But, having unrealistic expectations from your
marriage can ruin your relationship. You should always remember that you should
love and respect your spouse and it helps in strengthening your relationship.
But, one more thing that is really important for marriage is acceptance. If you
expect realistic things in your relationship, share, communicate and accept
that you are not always on a cakewalk, there will be hard time as well.
Taking things too
casually: If you are too comfortable in your relationship that is good. But,
if you have started taking it too casually, then you are on wrong path. You should
never take this relationship too casual. Pay attention to your partner’s words,
requirements and his/her needs. If you are ignoring him/her frequently, not
paying much attention to all small and big things, then get ready to face the
consequences.
Involving your
parents in your clashes: It is not suggested to involve your parents in all
arguments of husband-wife. It is good to seek their advice whenever required,
but their involvement in all matters will affect the freedom of your
relationship. Be enough strong to make your decisions and stand for yourself
and for your spouse or life partner.
Interfering too much
into each-others life: Every relationship needs some time and it is the
same with marriage as well. You need
to give some time and space to this important relationship. At times, it is
important to give some space and me-time in this relationship. It is good if
you take small separate vacations to make your relationship bliss. You must
show trust in your partner and give him/her some freedom as well. Interfering
too much into each-other’s life and asking too many questions and spying can worse
situation.
Being too fearful to
share your feeling: If you are too fearful to share your feelings with your
spouse, then there is something wrong in your relationship. Your spouse should
be like your best friend. You should never feel bad or should not have negative
feeling in your mind while sharing your feelings with your spouse. Being too
scared to share your feeling with your spouse is a negative sign.
Expecting your
partner Jack of all traits: This is another thing we expect from our
partner to be Jack of all traits. We want our partner to be a good listener, healer, fixer, cleaner, dryer,
washer, and much more than that. These kinds of expectations and thinking that
he/she knows all can increase the burden of your spouse to put more efforts
then required in your relationship.
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