Ending a relationship is not that easy decision, as you must
have invested a lot of time, emotions and efforts to build that relationship. If
you are planning to end your relationship it will change your life for forever.
If you are thinking to consider the things once again and want to save your relationship, still you need to ask a
few questions to yourself before reaching to any decision. Always remember that
you must have thought thousand times before starting this relationship and to
end it you need to consider all the points because separation is always difficult.
Although, considering the below points is not the only thing which you should
do, but it will help in making the decision.
Is this a fight you
had before?: Do you continue to fight over the same topic again and again?
If you are fighting over the same topic again and again then it is a warning
signal for you. If you both are not able to find out the solution of your
problem, then you need to think about the other ways to solve it. Eventually,
one of you give up and stop fighting. If it does not happen and you continue
fighting then you should take it as a serious issue.
Do you have kids?: If
you have kids always consider them, kids are the one who are worst effected
with such fights and separations. Think about the situation where your kids
will be either with you or with your husband in his house. It will affect them
emotionally and mentally. Being around couple who is fighting all the time,
gives negative impact in the mind of a kid. So, rather than thinking to stay
together and continue fighting all the time, think for a solution which will
not affect your child mentally and emotionally.
Is there anything
affecting your relationship?: If there is anything which is affecting your
relationship try to figure out that thing. Be it an extended family or
increased responsibilities. Whatever you think is bothering you and affecting
your relationship, it is always worth talking it and sharing your thoughts
rather can feeling bad over it and taking such difficult decision.
Do you still feel
that connection & love?: It might be you have loved him/her a lot and
you got married because you wanted to spent rest of your life with him/her. If
you truly love him/her that means that you will be there in all good and bad
time. So, take it as a phase of life and try to find out ways to deal with it.
Are you facing
emotional & physical abuse?: Is he/she abusing you? If he/she is
abusing you physically, then the effect of it can be seen. But, you are facing
the emotional abuse, the side effects of it are more severe and difficult to
handle. If your partner is telling about your flaws all the time and never
praises you for anything then he/she is abusing you emotionally. There is a
difference in fighting for something you did and constantly putting you down
over everything all the time. If you are facing such kind of situation you need
to work over it, if it remains same then you need to take some corrective
actions.
Is this the only way
out?: Is this the only option you are left with. This is really a tough
decision and you should take this decision in hurry or under any emotional
stress. Think about all possible solutions to make your relationship work. If
you think a break or vacation can help in rebuilding it, take a break and go on
vacation with your partner. If you think that things will change if you guys
live separately for some time. Then try that out before taking the final call.
To make your marriage work put all your efforts and thoughts.
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