It is really not simple to choose your life partner when you
are going for an arranged marriage.
Being a girl it is more difficult to decide and make your decision. Every girl
wants a life partner who will love her and make her feel special all the time.
So, if you are also looking for a guy who will make you feel special and
understand you as well in arranged marriage then you need to be a little more
cautious while making your final decision. Meeting someone first time and
taking the most important decision of your life can make you nervous. The most
important part of wedding is your first meeting because in arranged marriage
most of the people make their decisions based on their first meeting.
Therefore, it becomes more important that you ask more relevant and important
questions and try to understand the person well. Here are some important
questions that a girl should ask to a guy in their first meeting.
Are you ready for
marriage?: When you are meeting a guy for the very first time, it is really
important to ask is he ready for the marriage or he is taking this decision
under pressure. If he is not ready for the marriage, then you will not be happy
with him as he must not be ready for this big responsibility.
What are his career
goals and future plans?: When you get married, you have to take care of
many responsibilities including all financial matters. Therefore, it is really
necessary that a guy should be financially independent and organized. So, he
can plan for all big and small expenses in life and take care of all financial
responsibilities with ease. You should ask him about his career goals and
future plans to understand his career path. It will also help in understanding
how ambitious he is about his career. His career ambitions will directly affect
your future as well as your financial status.
Is he comfortable
with career oriented partner? If you are working women, then it might be
that you will not like to leave your job after marriage as well. In such a
situation, a conservative family will not allow you to work after marriage and
prove disastrous with a lot of restrictions. However, there are many men who
are very supportive when it comes to career of their life partner, but you need
to be sure about this. You should ask this question in first meeting itself.
So, before saying ‘yes’ you need to think about all possible situations.
You responsibilities
towards his family: When you are meeting him first time, it is not really
possible that you will be able to know everything about him and his nature, but
at least you should know that what are his expectations from his life partner?
It is good that you ask him politely about his expectations from his life
partner towards him and his family. This might also give you a clue whether
they are conservative or open-minded.
Is he comfortable
with you taking responsibility of your parents?: All the girls want to be close to their
parents even after marriage as well. When you want to stay connected with your
parents, then it is really important that your husband should also understand
your point. In such situation, support and understanding are the two major
qualities, which you should look forward in your life partner. Try to know his views and make sure that he will
respect your parents and your responsibilities towards them after marriage.
Does he want to
relocate after marriage?: Nowadays, there is no assurance that you will
stay in the same city for forever. It is not us, but our jobs that decide our
location. So, if you want to stay in the same city or place where you are
residing, then tell about your preferences in advance. In many situations, the
guy might be staying in a different city and the parents are in other city, but
sooner or later he decides to shift with his parents. Therefore, in that
situation, are you ready to relocate or move to a different city with your
husband after marriage.
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